As a student commuting from Žilina plus a person with insomnia, I have many times experienced the phenomenon of the train leaving in front of my eyes. Or when you realize how to solve a mathematical problem at the last minute of your test, or the hardship of handing out assignments right on the deadline. These are quite regular things, those to which each one of us relates and curses right after they happen. We know that these are things we could have avoided with a little bit more discipline, so we blame ourselves. But what about the ones when we just blame it on the dreadful phrase: “It’s already too late”? These are the things that are the dearest to us. We do not have the heart to hold its bad outcomes inside ourselves, so with a saddened expression, we just whisper that it’s too late and we cannot do anything about it anymore. But is that true? Does a fight with your friend that you had caused automatically mean the end of the friendship? No, not if both parties want to keep their bond. All that is needed is a heartfelt apology from your side, acceptance from theirs and expressiveness from both. But this is not something that comes easy to us. A wise friend of mine once said: “If it's difficult, it's worth it.” Great things don’t come cheap. We need to work for them. And then you try and try, and try to make up for the disaster and you are as expressive as you can be but… it does not change anything. And then you start to think that you should probably let things go because you messed up so bad that there is just no turning back - a synonym for too late. But is that so? Are you the one that’s at the fault for this unresolved conflict? You have played your part, now it’s time for the open arms of your friend. But they just won’t open them. What now? Is this truly the end? Are you at fault? No, you are not. Relationships work only if both souls try their best. If one doesn’t - there is nothing the first one can do about it. You cannot be the only one that keeps the relationship alive, that is not the way to friendship. There must be mutual understanding. You understand you messed up, hurt their feelings and that you need to apologize. And if they don’t understand your actions… does that mean they see your effort as useless? I am not going to lie, they probably think it now. Amid their emotions, your mistake is the only thing they see. But that does not mean it will be like this forever. You were close, you spent time together. They will start to miss it and realize that one conflict is not worth it. Things can change. And that’s why you cannot say it’s too late. © Dani White, 2021/2022
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